As we approach the new year, I’m not thinking about all of the new things I want to start doing. Instead, I’m thinking about the things that I’ve always loved and what I want to improve.
I don’t necessarily like making New Year’s resolutions. You can read about what I like to do in this blog post. This year I prefer to reflect and improve on what I already know.
Don’t be afraid of these two words
These days I’m focused more and more on my mental health. Let’s just put it out there and say it. “You don’t have to be crazy or falling apart to want to work on your mental health.” Mental health still seems to have a stigma attached to it. We always want to assume that something is wrong when we hear those two words.
Whether there is something wrong or not, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you want to work on yourself because we can always learn and we can always be better and feel better. We’re humans going through the ups and downs of life which can have us sit with lots of different emotions. But if you really don’t like the words “mental health” then another way to look at it is your well-being.
A Busy Stage of Life
I have found myself in a busy stage of life for the last while. The funny thing is that for some reason I want to attribute busyness to mean physical movement. But I’m not always physically busy, so I think, “Why do I feel so busy?” I seem to be worried that someone might look at me and think I’m not busy at all.
It isn’t always how much you’re going from one place to the next, but it is also as much to do with the mental load you carry including keeping track of family schedules, work, to-do lists, and more. And we can’t forget the fun stuff too like vacations or meeting up with friends. All of that and more makes me (us) busy. Erica Djossa over at Momwell talks a lot about the invisible and mental load if you want to know more. I like following her on Instagram as well as Gemma Hartley.
Changing the Focus
I could list all the things but you get the jist. There is a lot going on and so I’ve decided I need to focus on my mental health to help me find happiness in each day that comes from within. I have to stop denying myself time for it. So if you’re ever feeling a bit meh (I have the Emoji movie stuck in my head 😐) a little longer than you’d like then maybe that’s a signal that it is time to focus on YOU! I’m reading the signs and I’m going to spend more time with ME! Sounds selfish, I know, but all the psychologists, counselors, therapists, and coaches are all saying that taking care of yourself first makes you better able to take care of others. It’s that good old airplane analogy. Put on your mask first then help others.
Let’s Talk About the New Year
It’s 2024! I don’t want to throw out anything old. To me, that means I didn’t learn anything from it or take away the good that came from it. And I’m not bringing in anything new. Sounds a bit static and boring, doesn’t it? But I plan to start again or make what I had before better. Or leave it alone if it is something that I don’t need anymore. Now, I can’t say that I won’t try anything new at all because that just isn’t me. I’m just not planning to bring in a bunch of new ideas. Maybe next year! Right now, in my life, that sounds way too overwhelming, so as I’ve said I will focus on what I have and that sounds just right to me.
So here’s a little peek into what I intend to do in 2024 (To those who read this in the future: it doesn’t matter what year it is, this could still be the way you want to do things in any year).
I’m going back to my basics. These days I have to bring it down a few levels and think simply. I’m going to go on a memory jog and think about things that I’ve always loved to do and get back into it. Sometimes big changes or life events can leave you a little dazed and confused. I’m ready to clear the fog and go back to the things I love and find the simple things that make me happy. I say simple because I don’t want it to feel hard otherwise I won’t do it and I don’t have a lot of energy these days for something too big and new.
I’m going to vision board it! This time I’m going to make a vision board and find a place where I will actually see it. I want to remind myself of my hopes and dreams for the year. A vision board allows me to get creative. Creativity is something I crave, so maybe it’ll help me stick to what I say I’m going to do. I usually end up tucking it away in a corner where it will probably never be seen again. What’s the point if you can’t see it? People tend to forget about all the things they said they’d do in the new year after a month or two. So I suggest you make your New Year’s intentions something visual.
Use my updated planner and make some plans with ME, with family, and with friends. I have learned that if I don’t plan it and write it down, I just won’t do it. It’s not that I don’t want to, I don’t make the time. I created a planner a few years back that included everything I wanted in a daily planner. It’s a pretty thick one because it is meant for your daily life for the year! This time I added self-care into it and I’m going to use it!
And in that planner, I want to keep track of what I love! It seems silly, but we can and do forget about what we love. I’m writing it down somewhere so on the meh days when I don’t know what I’m doing or I’ve forgotten everything, I’m going to look back and remind myself. I’m going to make it happen and do it even when it looks a little different. I say “even when it looks a little different” because sometimes we still might love things but feel like it can’t be done because it isn’t exactly the way it was before. The truth is, everything changes. I’m learning that if it is something you really want and like you can figure out how to do it even when it has to be a bit different than it was before.
Ready to Start the New Year?
Although, I only told you a few of my intentions there’s a lot to unpack in each one. There is a lot to bring back to the forefront of my mind. What are you planning for your New Year’s goals, resolutions, intentions, or whatever you decide to call them? Do you think you’ll go back to your basics? Whatever you decide to do in the new year, I wish you all the best!