set your mom goals and remember Them!
I’ve got mom brain. I can’t deny it anymore. It started when I was pregnant for the first time. As I got further along into my pregnancy there were so many things going on with my body, but I realized one thing. I couldn’t remember anything anymore. I was always searching for words that were on the tip of my tongue. I’d suddenly forget what I was talking about mid-sentence. What in the world was going on with my brain? Everyone kept telling me it was pregnancy brain. I accepted it. Like most things with pregnancy, it would go back to normal after I gave birth.
Okay, fast forward 11 years. I still can’t remember words that are right there on the tip of my tongue, or that I just uttered a day ago. I forget what I’m saying mid-sentence, and now, when I leave one thing to go do the next, I forget what I was set off to do. No one told me that once you deliver the baby and you become a parent that your memory doesn’t come back. Yes, I am 11 years older than I was when I had my first babies (I’m a twin mom), but I just feel so forgetful. So, I’m saying it’s mom brain. At least I hope that’s all it is. ?
What Does mom brain have to do with goals?
I am a mom devoted to my family, but with all of this busyness that goes on with the 6 of us, I tend to forget things, myself included. While I have hopes and dreams for my family, I have them for myself as well. I can’t accomplish anything if I’m always forgetting what I’m aiming for and have no clear goals to do it.
I’d find notes that I had scribbled down months ago in some notebook or planner. The likelihood of me going back to that exact spot in some random notebook was slim. I can’t work on a goal if I can’t find it, or forgot that I wrote it down. I would come up with goals or new routines to add to my day, but then it would be out of sight and out of mind. If I remembered it, it would probably take me forever to find it and I hate wasting time looking for things that I could’ve made a better system for. This made me feel like I was getting nowhere with my goals. So, I thought it was time I set myself up for success.
You don’t have to be in business or fitness to set a goal
I always think goals are for business types, fitness gurus, or students that need to master a skill or score well on a test. The truth is, anyone can set a goal. You can make goals for yourself or goals for the family. Goals can be made as a couple. Truly, it can be anything you’d like to achieve.
Same with habits. This past school year, I added a few calming habits to my morning routine. I wanted time for myself and to feel less frazzled going into my day. As a family, we started morning pages, where we sit down and write whatever comes to mind for about 20 to 30 minutes. The kids spend a lot of time writing Christmas lists and birthday lists no matter what time of year it is, but hey, it gets them writing and thinking.
Mirror Mindset Goals and Habits
There is so much talk about being in the right mindset to accomplish something. I decided I wanted my brain to be in that mindset to accomplish my goals first thing in the morning. How could I do that? I wanted it to be on my mind as soon as I came out of my morning fog. So, I began to think about what I do when I first get out of bed. Without discussing everything I do, let’s just say I’m pretty much in front of my bathroom mirror at the start of each morning. If I saw my goals as soon as my day started, then it would be one of the first things on my mind for that day.
I also had daily habits I wanted to start, but would never remember to do them. How do you make something a habit if you only remember to do it some of the time? Well, you can’t. You have to repeat the action often enough to make it a habit. I wanted my new habit to be like other habits I do without thinking. To do that, you have to train your brain and make a conscious effort to form the new habit, repeating it until it sticks.
Set Your Goals
What are some goals that you want to accomplish? What is important to you? Make your goal for you, or make it for your family. Whatever it is, write it down and do it! This will get you moving in the direction you want to go. It also shows your kids that even as busy adults we have dreams too. They’ll begin to understand that if they work hard for something they can get it.
Create New Habits
We all have habits we could lose, but we can also benefit from new ones. There are several suggestions about how long it can take to form a new habit, but it seems that they all fall between 14 to 21 days. Of course, the longer you do it, the more habit-forming it will be. What are some things you would like to add to your daily routine? I’ve always got something up my sleeve that I’m trying to do. Besides the morning pages, I try to read a little each morning, fit in some yoga or exercise. Even though I know I want to do those things every single day, I still don’t feel like they’re a habit.
How to use mirror mindset
Mirror Mindset is meant to go up on your mirror or anywhere you will see it first thing in the morning. If not your bathroom mirror, then maybe there’s an area set up in your home where you will see it every morning. My bathroom mirror is a place it will surely be seen.
Goals on the Mirror
Decide on 1 to 3 goals you’d like to work towards for at least the next month. Be realistic about what you can do, keeping your other obligations in life in mind. Too many goals at once combined with other life plans will make it less likely for you to carry out. You can keep the same goals for as long as it takes you to complete them, or give yourself a specific time frame. Write down the actions you need to take to meet your goal in another place. A place you will remember of course.
After you’ve decided on your goals, find a quote or mantra that will motivate you to get it done!
Track Your Habits on the Mirror
Once you’ve decided on your goals, make room for some new habits. Don’t forget to track them! I use the habit tracker by marking off each day I complete my new habits. To cover more days on one sheet, I make a slash in the box for one day and another for the next day. An “x” means that I have tracked my habits for two days.
Today is the day! Start working on some goals and begin new habits. You can do anything you set your mind to do. Fill in your email to get the free downloadable form and tape it onto your mirror today!
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